The Social Media Jealousies

Please bear with me, as this is a bit of a brain dump… 

Instagram and social media have been making me all kinds of crazy recently. Not having anything to do with politics, but having all to do with what I perceive everyone else to have, and what I don’t have.

Why don’t I have a huge, bright, spotless house?

Why don’t we have the means to go on vacations all the time (says the girl who just got back from Budapest) and spend weeks at the beach?

How come I can’t spend ridiculous amounts of money on clothes and accessories for Sadie?

You’d think, with the way I’ve been acting, that I live in a shack with no running water, never leave my town and have Sadie running around wearing clothes from a garbage dump.

I have a great home that while yes, is far from perfect and far from my dream home, I’ve made into a warm, cozy place to live with Dave. We have plans and the means to make it even better. Is it bright, white, airy and decorated to the nines in a farmhouse motif and covered in shiplap? No. But then again, who is to say that’ll all be “in” in a few years anyway? Does it keep my family and I warm, protected from the elements and comfortable? Yes. And also, I live in one of the most expensive cities/areas in the US, so duh, I’m not going to have a huge house! We’re middle class and in certain parts of Long Island, that doesn’t get you far!

We have a wonderful mother/mother-in-law who takes the entire family on vacation every summer for a week. That’s 13 of us! And while I may get overwhelmed by being with so many people and sometimes get a bit cranky about it, I am truly grateful that she does that for us and never ceases to put her family before herself.

And on top of that, Dave and I get to go away as well. I mean shit, we went to Greece last year! Are we flying across the country every school break? No, but is that really so bad?

Sadie could care less (currently) if her clothes come from a pricey store or from Target. And I get her PLENTY of clothes and accessories. The girl wants for nothing. So why do I beat myself up that I am not buying her $45 shoes or $60 dresses when in reality I wouldn’t spend that kind of money on clothes for her anyway? Not at the rate she grows! And wears through shoes. My god, that girl is hard on shoes.

Sometimes I need to remind myself that just what someone shares online, whether it’s Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat etc, doesn’t necessarily mean that they are sharing the whole picture. Maybe only one room of their house is done up and the rest is still from 1970. Maybe the only reason they can afford tons of vacations and pricey clothes is that they are workaholics who are never home, or maybe they’re in massive credit card debt up to their eyeballs.

All in all, we’ll never know the whole story because we are not the people we watch on social media. I don’t mean this to come off as ungrateful for what I have, or not appreciating what I have. These thoughts have just been tumbling around in my brain for awhile now and I needed to get them down on paper on the blog to get them out of my system.

Do you ever suffer from the social media jealousies?

Budapest in Pictures

A Trip to Budapest, Hungary | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

I recently had the experience of going to Budapest, Hungary for work. A HUGE plus of my job is international travel, and while it stinks to be away from home at times, I get to see some amazing places. I took over 200 photos during my time in Budapest so bear with me while I share my favorites! These are from my first days there.

Our hotel was in the Castle District on the Buda side of the city, and right next to Matthias Church and the Fisherman’s Bastion.

Matthias Church

Matthias Church, Budapest | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

Matthias Church, Budapest | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

Fisherman’s Bastion. At first, I thought this was Buda Castle because of how majestic it was! And literally, steps from our hotel.

Fisherman's Bastion, Budapest | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

Fisherman's Bastion, Budapest | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

Love how it’s lit up at night!

Fisherman's Bastion, Budapest | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

Fisherman's Bastion, Budapest | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

One thing I noticed all over the Castle District were these intricate doors! I loved all of the different shapes and colors!

Budapest Castle District Doors | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

Also these cool ironwork signs:

Budapest Castle District Signs | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

To get across to the Pest side (pronounced Pesht) you had to cross the Danube river, and the closest and easiest way was to walk across the Suspension Bridge, which was completed and opened in 1849.

Suspension Bridge, Budapest | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

Suspension Bridge, Budapest | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

View from the Suspension Bridge, Budapest | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

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My coworkers and I walked around the Pest side for a bit and took in the sites – just kind of wandering aimlessly. This is a view of Parliament from across the Danube.

Parliament, Budapest | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

And at night.

Parliament, Budapest | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

Statue of József Eötvös, a Hungarian writer. I liked the bird perched so perfectly on his finger.

József Eötvös Statue, Budapest | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

There are a couple of these signs around Budapest – I spotted another one at the airport as I was leaving. I posted a photo of me sitting on this on my Instagram. Warning – the letters are NOT stationary! I almost fell off the G haha.

#Hello Hungary, Budapest | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

Loved the color and the rough exterior of this building.

Old building, Budapest | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

Great street art! I love finding awesome street art wherever I am.

Street Art, Budapest | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com Street Art, Budapest | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

The next few pictures are from the Dohány Street Synagogue, which is the largest Synagogue in Europe. During the war, it bordered the Jewish Ghetto in Budapest. Unfortunately, we weren’t able to go in because my coworker and I weren’t dressed appropriately (you can’t wear shorts or tank tops) but we got some photos from the outside.

Dohány Street Synagogue, Budapest | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

Dohány Street Synagogue, Budapest | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

Dohány Street Synagogue, Budapest | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

Dohány Street Synagogue, Budapest | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

This is the Tree of Life, a Holocaust memorial. It took a long time to get this picture through the fence surrounding the courtyard – I had to wait for a lot of people to finish taking pictures/selfies in front of it… which I found kind of unsettling?

Tree of Life - Dohány Street Synagogue, Budapest | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

Dohány Street Synagogue, Budapest | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

These are Hungarian (or Budapest-ian?) mailboxes!

Mailbox, Budapest | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

And Budapest has it’s very own version of the London Eye – the Budapest Eye! I swear, these things are popping up in every major city now! We didn’t ride it but I have gone on the one in London!

Budapest Eye | Perks of Being a JAP | www.perksofbeingajap.com

We went on a full walking tour of the city the next day with my event to some other sites and got to go inside a few amazing buildings – I’ll share in my next post!

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